This article is written with no intention to sound like an absolute solution to the problem nor was it written to sound like the only ones guilty are the women. It is a precaution, preventative measure, a risk minimizer and most of all it is Wisdom.
Nature of Men
Allah, the All Wise and All Knowing, created the nature of men different from that of a woman. Time and time again we hear groups of people challenging this and arguing that Men and Women are created equal. There is of course is some truth to this and to a certain extent they are but as a whole, they are not.
Men are sexually driven creatures, women are emotionally driven. As women, we might not understand this but we have to accept it. It’s just how Allah created them, it is not wrong to be the way that they are. The Prophets were men and they are no exception to this fact.
He said: “O my Lord! Prison is more to my liking than that to which they invite me. Unless You turn away their plot from me, I will feel inclined towards them and be one (of those who commit sin and deserve blame or those who do deeds) of the ignorants.”
Surah Yusuf 12:33
Pay attention and reflect on the words of Prophet Yusuf (peace be upon him) when he said “…Unless You turn away their plot from me, I will feel inclined towards them…”
SubhanAllah, it was not easy for him to rid himself of the temptation. He was fighting a tough battle and He admitted to Allah that unless He saves him, he would fall in the trap. Alhamdulillah his du’a was answered and it ended well for him.
There was also the story of Barscisa, the pious monk from Bani Israeel who was overcome by his desires and fell into zina.
So it is not only the men in our era who are inclined and easily manipulated by their desires, it was ever since the creation of mankind – why did Allah create Hawa alongside Adam?
There is only a minority of practicing muslim women today who are actually paying attention to themselves and making the effort to be p.h.a.t for their husbands. I remember attending a lecture at one of the local islamic centers and sadly, most of what I saw were unfit women smelling like the kitchen. I thought to myself if they don’t mind looking and smelling like this outside of the comfort of their own home, what do they look like at home infront of their husbands? Is it so difficult to understand the negative effects of looking unattractive for our spouses? There is not a day that our husbands walk out the door without being bombarded by fitna – from the fake beauty on billboards to the girls in the office. And we chose to dress to literally kill and drain his desires by looking like this. What is a man to do but think it and/or do it? Yes, it is wrong and I am last person on the surface of the earth who would try to justify it but I would like to be the first to try to make women realize why. I don’t have to say more because I’m sure Abu Mus’ab got the message across to you.
Beauty is your duty
A sister very dear to my heart once said it so well. She said that regardless of whether you love your husband or not, as a muslim wife, your duty is to adorn yourself for your husband, attend to his needs immediately when he calls you, not leave the house without his permission, not let anyone enter the house without his permission… This is your responsibilty as a muslim wife and his right as a husband! It is not something extra special that you only do for somebody you are madly, deeply in love with. However bad a husband he is, it is still his right for as long as you are his wife. If he is not giving you your rights, then he will be held to account for that on the Day of Judgment just as you would for not giving him his rights.
From XL to Bombshell
The body is a miracle from Allah. He created our bodies with the capability to do wonders. Unfortunately, most of us take our bodies for granted. I know very few women who can carry their own bodies off the ground (pushup). It is so simple yet majority of the women cannot even do this. All I am trying to do here by writing all of this, is to wake ourselves up from this deep sleep that is weakening us by the day. And when we weaken ourselves, we in turn weaken the Ummah of Rasulullah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam). He warned us of this, subhanAllah.
Thauban reported that the messenger of Allah said: “It is near that the nations will call one another against you just as the eaters call one another to their dishes.” Somebody asked: “Is this because we will be few in numbers that day?” He said: “Nay, but that day you shall be numerous, but you will be like the foam of the sea, and Allah will take the fear of you away from your enemies and will place weakness into your hearts.” Somebody asked: “What is this weakness?” He said: “The love of the world and the dislike of death.”
May Allah increase the number of healthy, fit and strong muslims in our ummah.
Do not be discouraged and no one should ever believe that it’s too late or that they can never have a bombshell body. It is not good genes or just being ‘blessed’, people work hard to get to where they are in terms of physique and strength. Put an effort into it! Your body can only get weaker or stronger by the day, it can never stay the same.
Please brothers and sisters, let’s stop the cycle of producing weak muslims. We have 1.6 billion Muslims around the world, but what are numbers? A thousand weak, fat and unfit men put together can never equal 10 fit, strong and ripped men.
Get active, get your children to be active. Get your sons to join the olympics – enough of hearing George, John and Tom winning the gold medals. Get your daughters to be fit and attractive so that their husbands in the future will be mad about them and not Jennifer or Cassandra.
Don’t you think it’s about time we are on top of the world and not them?
To those of you are already incorporating fitness into their lives, job well done and may Allah increase you in strength and those who haven’t already done so, it’s about time.